Women who are facing their grief and challenges with infertility and loss are frequently met with non helpful sentiments that end up making the opposite party feel better, and the grieving person feel more alone. Grief is not a competition. Statements that begin with, “well at least you...” “you should be grateful that...” and “there’s always the possibility to try again…” are things you will not hear in therapy with me. 

When women are facing grief related to trying to conceive or losing a pregnancy, they are often also facing pressure to minimize or downplay the significance of their pain. They are expected to keep going and keep juggling the various responsibilities and obligations they have, while likely keeping others afloat around them.

You are not alone, and you don’t have to suppress your pain to keep from drowning.

Your grief is heavy, it is valid, and you do not have to carry it in silence. The anxiety that thrives in the uncertainty is real and exhausting. Whether you are experiencing a physical loss, or the loss of possibilities, dreams, and goals to grow your family, you are allowed to acknowledge and process it however you need. There are no rules about how grief should look, feel, or how long it lasts. We learn to live with the losses we experience every day, and can work together to find new meaning and comfort to make life feel more manageable. 

Whether you are experiencing pain and loss related to termination of a pregnancy, miscarriage, stillbirth, and/or infertility, I know your lived experiences are unique and should be addressed with the awareness that you are the expert of your own story. We can go at whatever pace feels right for you to unpack these experiences with a focus on compassion, grace, and support.